The Body Remembers
Resilience has a cost. The body keeps the account.
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The Body Remembers
“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer.” — Albert Camus
The crisis passes.
Not all at once. Just gradually the weight of it begins to shift and you realise one day that you are on the other side of something that once felt endless.
The brave face can come down now.
The first thing that arrives is relief. The exhale after a long time of holding your breath.
And then, quietly, exhaustion follows. The tiredness of someone who held everything together for a long time and is only now allowing themselves to feel what that cost.
I have always been resilient. I can cope with things. But resilience has a cost it doesn’t always present immediately. The body keeps its own accounts. When the crisis passes and the brave face is no longer required, the account comes due.
Not as collapse. Just as exhaustion. And the quiet knowledge that what is needed now is simple.
Rest. And restore.
What the body was doing all along
During the time you were holding everything together, your body was working harder than you knew. Something in you stayed on guard. The exhaustion you are feeling now is not new. It is the body finally allowed to feel what it had been carrying.
This is not weakness. It is what bodies do.
Bessel van der Kolk has written about this — that the body stores what the mind could not process during a crisis. Not as memory. As physical state. As tension held in specific places. As a nervous system that stays slightly braced long after the reason for bracing has passed.
The body remembers everything. It kept the score quietly while you were busy being strong.
What rest actually is
Rest is not the absence of activity. It is the body doing the work it could not do while it was holding on.
The body returns to its resting state. The exhaustion deepens before it eases. Given permission, the body begins to find its way back.
It does not need instructions. It needs time and stillness and the removal of the demand that kept it watchful for so long.
What restoration feels like
It does not arrive all at once.
First the exhaustion deepens. The body, finally safe to feel what it was holding, releases it. This feels worse before it feels better. That is not something going wrong. It is something finally going right.
Then, gradually, something shifts.
A feeling of calm returns. Not manufactured. Not achieved through effort. Just arrived, the way the natural state always does when the body has been given what it needs.
You recognise it immediately. Not because it is new but because it is familiar. It was always there underneath everything. The anxiety, the sustained strength, the exhaustion, these were visitors. The calm is what was always home.
Restoration is not becoming someone new. It is returning to yourself.
My honest assessment: The body does not simply reset when a hard time ends. It needs genuine conditions for restoration. Rest. Sleep. Nourishment. Time. And what van der Kolk has shown — that the body stores what the mind could not process — means restoration is not just physical. It is the gradual release of what was held. Give your body what it needs. It knows the way back.
This Week
I have been thinking about what it cost to hold everything together during the hardest times in my life. Not with regret. With quiet respect for what the body carried without complaint. Rest and restoration are not luxuries. They are what the body asks for when it has given everything it had. I am learning to listen to that more carefully now.
What is your body asking you for right now?
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